I love this post from the
brilliant Leo Babauta, who writes the Zen
Habits blog. Leo describes how to be happier and more creative by
returning your mindset to a simpler time, when you weren't constrained by how
things should be. He says: "As children, we are naturally
imaginative, curious, able to play without a worry in our minds. Some qualities
of young children that happen naturally:
- they live in the present
- they have no concerns about money, productivity, or
being cool
- there are no limits to their imagination, except what
they’ve been exposed to
- they play and lose themselves in play
- they create with abandon
- they are endlessly curious, and ask questions … without
end
- they love showing off to their parents
We lose this childlike
nature, the nature we’re born with, because of society — it has certain
institutions and systems in place that beat childishness out of us, so we can
be more productive citizens and consumers. I think it’s unfortunate. We
shouldn’t abandon all responsibilities, but we can learn a lot from children
and be more like them in some ways.Start by deciding to abandon caution and to
give this a try. Start by identifying the qualities of children you’d like to
emulate: curiosity, play, living in the moment, abandoning worries,
imagination, creativity, pure joy.
Observe children: Watch how they play, how they live,
how they create, how they ask questions. Sure, sometimes they do dumb things
like throw tantrums, but even in that you can see their pure abandonment of
everything but what is happening to them right now. Watch and learn.
Play with children: If you have some of your own, great.
If not, play with children of friends and family. Lose yourself in the play. Be
a dinosaur, or a gorilla, or a villain. Have a joyous time. Make them squeal in
delight, and feel free to do the same yourself.
Create like a child: Don’t be constrained with what
people expect, what you’re used to. Be wild and have fun. Imagine that things
can be different, that there are no limitations, and see what happens. Most of
your childlike drawings will be tossed in the trash, but some might be put up
on the fridge.
Be curious like a child:
Look at things with
a child’s eye, and ask questions you’ve never asked before, explore with a
beginner’s mind. Don’t be afraid to ask why, and what if, and why not?
Live in
the moment: Forget
about all you have to do. Forget about what happened yesterday, or that
conversation you had. Forget about that meeting that’s coming up, or those
deadlines. Just do, and be."